Our rights are not something that we have to hold on to. We can have the mind of a servant.
Some conflict cannot be reconciled. If people did not know there was a conflict it can cause an obsession when it is questioned.
Concerning the time spent dealing with conflict, most of our work is spent on helping people with their faith. Pastors can take problems that aren't theirs. People want to draw them in. The mistake pastors can make is to be sucked in . Its not your problem, its theirs. Jesus is not our judge to make a ruling on topics. "who am i, i did not come to judge over you"
Seeing conflict where there is none. Conflict can mean pain and men like fixing things.
What is the goal in mediation between two people. Reconciliation. Listen . Bring god into the situation. Keep the peace. The overall brief is for them to work it out. We can be sued if we give advice and it doesn't work out. The pastor is not a fixit man. That is gods job.
Discerning. You hope that they discern what the situation is.
Don't get involved in conflict that arn't yours. Cognitive behavioural therapy.
Our task is to name things. We can tell them how they see it. This is what i am seeing. "you want this and you want this and neither of you can do what he other wants""then they say yeah or no"
Not all conflict is bad. Arguing is not all bad. If their are no conflicts then the relationship is lying. The popular pastor is he one who avoids all conflict.
Say i instead of you. I believe. I feel rather than you do this.
There will be people you don't like and don't like you. But don't confuse liking with loving.
Some conflict cannot be reconciled. If people did not know there was a conflict it can cause an obsession when it is questioned.
Concerning the time spent dealing with conflict, most of our work is spent on helping people with their faith. Pastors can take problems that aren't theirs. People want to draw them in. The mistake pastors can make is to be sucked in . Its not your problem, its theirs. Jesus is not our judge to make a ruling on topics. "who am i, i did not come to judge over you"
Seeing conflict where there is none. Conflict can mean pain and men like fixing things.
What is the goal in mediation between two people. Reconciliation. Listen . Bring god into the situation. Keep the peace. The overall brief is for them to work it out. We can be sued if we give advice and it doesn't work out. The pastor is not a fixit man. That is gods job.
Discerning. You hope that they discern what the situation is.
Don't get involved in conflict that arn't yours. Cognitive behavioural therapy.
Our task is to name things. We can tell them how they see it. This is what i am seeing. "you want this and you want this and neither of you can do what he other wants""then they say yeah or no"
Not all conflict is bad. Arguing is not all bad. If their are no conflicts then the relationship is lying. The popular pastor is he one who avoids all conflict.
Say i instead of you. I believe. I feel rather than you do this.
There will be people you don't like and don't like you. But don't confuse liking with loving.
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